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Today, my roommate's boyfriend moved in. I'm in love with him. Now I get to live with the happy couple. FML

Love sucks. Same exact thing happened to me. That year of college was pure hell, and I eventually moved out as they got engaged last year :/ I'm the maid of honor, and I'm still completly in love with him.

Owch, that must of hurt.

That's horrible...i'm still in high school, but I'm praying it won't reach that level for me... Maybe I'll get over him by then or something....

I IS A TACO! "He says he's so in love He's finally got it right I wonder if he knows He's all I think about at night He's the reason for the teardrops on my guitar The only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing star He's the song in the car I keep singing Don't know why I do"

Lmao i love that song ...its so sad. Just loke the OP's situation. I say move out or just move on!!

YDI for having emotions.

Then the threesomes will be awesome! They can be awkward if the other girl is not really into the guy. You won't have that pesky problem.

Get over it and him moron. He obviously belongs to someone else. To want is to be weak. It's your fault and you deserve everything that happens to you.

I think I must actually agree. Obviously, he is happy with someone else. If you truly love him, that's all that counts, correct?

True, but letting him be happy with who he's with won't make the move-in any easier on OP, will it?

all us guys want is raging wall sex! it doesnt matter whos it with! (>'')>#

This kinda makes you regret not telling him while you could huh? Yeah well, sorry :( move out?

you dont know she didnt ever tell him. Maybe she did once and he didnt feel the same way.

True true

You should either move out or get over it. He's taken.

Haha that sucks for you but I giggled xD

someone count how many threesome comments we get I would but im in the middle of a threesome! wooooo!

So you're using both your right and left hands?

hahahaha

Buy one, get one free! Now you can do them both!

I agree, he belongs to someone else. You need to get over him before you ruin their relationship.

Seriously. And for whatever reason, it's a HUGE pet peeve of mine when people say their in love with people they simply have crushes on. There's a huge difference between having a crush on somebody, them liking you back, you entering a relationship with them, and then maybe, possibly, if you're lucky, you both fall in love. /rant.

How do you know she`s not actually in love with him? You don`t know the whole story.

What I know is that it's impossible to be in love with somebody who does not love you back (or at least make it seem like they do). In other words, it sounds like the OP doesn't know what the fuck she's talking about. It's one thing to have a crush on someone. Of course they don't have to like you back It's another thing to love someone. Sure, they won't necessarily love you back as it could be a shitty relationship. It's a totally different story when you say you are in love with somebody. I've been in 3 different relationships and I don't think I've ever been in love. I've never felt as though I would spend the rest of my life with any given person, that I would die for them, that without them my world would end, that the best feeling in the world is laying in their arms, and so on. THAT is [only part of] what it's like to be in love with somebody. This chick has a crush on some dude. She thinks she's in love. Are you f*king kidding me?

You can feel love for someone who doesn't love you back... obviously. You don't need someone else's feelings to validate your love. What I do agree with is that you can't feel total love with someone until you know how they are during their worst times, which usually involves getting in a relationship with them and experiencing it together. Until then, it's just a partial love, a half-love. It's unlike a crush in that a crush is infatuation, wild passion for a short amount of time, with no sense of reality. Not knowing the situation, I would say OP /could/ feel love. Yet, at the same time, OP probably has only seen/heard of the dude during his best times, and so has an idealized version of him.

@ #80 you realize you used an accent mark instead of apostrophes? '`'`'`'`'`'`'` =p

I'm glad to know we have somebody out there who, although never having experienced love themself, is qualified to tell the rest of us what love is. You obviously know everything there possibly is to know about an extremely personal and subjective feeling that you've never had.

And what makes you think whoever you're talking to (be it me or someone above) hasn't experienced love?

Um, because they clearly stated they hadn't? "I've been in 3 different relationships and I don't think I've ever been in love." It's a direct quote from Dr_Pepper's post. Granted, FML makes it impossible to tell who you're directing your comment at because of the poorly designed comments section, so I can understand how you thought I was attacking you.

[nod] Right, sorry about that.

Tell him and move on.

That's a sad situation. There are a lot of men out there. Get your own boyfriend who will love you back and have a real relationship. Unless their circumstances changes, it's all downhill for you.

How do we know that the boyfriend won't love her back in the next week or so?

hehehe :) True. That's why I said, unless their circumstances changes.... But, he still has to breakup with the roommate. Then they may have a chance in having a fulfilling relationship :)

ughh im in love with this upperclassman! but i dont think he even sees me but we talked before well all he said was excuse me. lol. i feel you pain though

You are not in love if you don't even know him. :|

Of course that's love. It's always love when the other person hasn't acknowledged you as something other than someone in their way.

true love is when you only know of their existance through the stories of friends and havent actually seen them yet. once you get that kinda love, its special, hold on to it!

You can also find that form of love when one first begins stalking.

ok 1) OP your not in love you dont know him and he probably doesnt even acknowledge you as more then his gf's room mate who he would rather not live there and 2) number 12 get some help you're kind of being a creeper and a stalker if all he said is excuse me you havnt talked and he doesnt realize you exist and your not in love you're either really nieve or really need to seek some perfesional help

wow i feel so bad for you. that happened to me-in a way. i caught my boyfriend kissing my new bff, i thought i was helping him get me a valentines gift for me, i gave him a great idea for my friend - his new gf. he never broke up with me, it was just over. i couldnt get away from them. my heart broke into a million pieces :( he moved to halifax and i never said bye-felt like a bitch, but he hurt me. still not quite over him. just be careful. you shouldnt have to watch this, it might just hurt you more in the end.

That's more awful than this FML!! :'( Sorry for you! Ughh, it's like watching a scary movie. Don't do it! Don't open that door!

:( Wow thats so heartbreaking what a jerk. I hope by you're "not over him" you mean you're "not over the pain he caused you" cause its sad that you would still have feelings for someone who would do that to you. 100% FYL though :(

Well there IS one positive thing. If the happy couple don't work out then at least he doesnt have to move!

YDI for not knowing what love is

continuation...i waited for them to break up, but i couldnt do it. its better to be on the positive side, but i have learned to think long term. i should have let go and stopped hanging with them as soon as i found out, but i couldnt let go, and now, there isnt one day i dont think about him. i hope it works out for you and the best of luck to you :)

OP, you are confusing having a crush with being in love. Don't be a creeper and get over the guy (it might take actually moving out). There's plenty of fish out there and you'll find someone else who'll actually notice you.

Thank you! This annoys the hell out of me--I mean, I guess I shouldn't care but it's like Christ, you think there's no difference between having a crush on a kid and being in love with the partner you'll spend your life with? Really? Ugh...

lostfaithinppl, I agree 100%!

Your username completely discredits what you have to say.

I totally agree with that statement- "OP, you are confusing having a crush with being in love. Don't be a creeper and get over the guy (it might take actually moving out). There's plenty of fish out there." moving out - best advice - you just gotta get out of that situation.

tell him and kill your roommates, then elope with him.

Just have sex with him when your roommate is out. He'll definately be willing to after a few attempts.

Who the fuck wants advice from a site like www.fmylife.com. Don't give the girl advice, she's mature enough to deal with the situation by herself.

creeper

Wow, this is epicly sad. I feel for you in every way. Not really though, easy fix honestly. Get over it, trust me that will work out better for the entire threesome. For the record that's totally a threesome comment and I count two so far.

Sorry, but you're not in love with anyone. You can't love someone you've never been with.

Not true. I love Johnny Depp. So Much. lol.

i really feel for you on that...fyl...T_T

What kind of friend are you to fall in love with your roommate's bf? Get over it. BTW, it isn't love. You have a crush. Love goes both ways, obviously that guy isn't in love with you.

Who are you to tell another person that what they feel is not love? You don't know what love means because it means many different things to different people. For many people love has different meanings and yours may be different from OP's so i don't understand why you are over here telling her things for something that does not even involve you in the first place.

+1 To Jenny. *Hands some cookies* :3

Aw thanks :)

Jenny, that is the kind of thinking that gets little teenies pregnant. "But I LOVE him! I don't care if I'm only 15, we can have sex because we're in LOVE!" Just saying. Oh, and I disagree with what you're saying on other lines. OP should just leave them alone and move on. If he's with another girl, that's too damn bad for her.

I actually have my thinking straight. FYI I have not had sex because i know the consequences. If i were to have sex its with a person i love that i have been with for more than 2 years and will wait till then. OP has a right to fight for love. When people watch these reality shows and cheering other people on to win and then call other people home wreckers they are complete hypocrites because its practically the same thing. She loves him and she should not move on its up to her. If she wants to clarify things with him thats fine. The point where it gets wrong is when she is fooling around behind her back. All i am saying is should talk to him. The rest is up to her and really you are no one to tell her what to do. What you can do is give her advice but you can not tell her that she needs move on or to get over it its her life her decisions.

I never said YOU had sex, but that way of thinking is why many other teens have sex. They think they can deal with the consequences because they are "in love," and that their knight in shining armor will stick by them forever and always. What's there to clarify? He is CLEARLY with her ROOM MATE. He is taken. He is not an option. What makes you think it's okay to go and tell him her feelings when he's taken? That just puts her in a world of hurt, and him in a world of awkward. Not to mention he's likely to freak out or tell his girlfriend, in which case hello catfight. She needs to move on. And really, if she truly loved him, she should be satisfied with the fact that he is happy, not pining over the fact that he's not hers. If she truly loved her friend, also, she should be satisfied in general in the fact that they are happy together. Rough going, but that's how it is. Also what kind of bitch move is it to break people up, steal boyfriends/girlfriends, or immediately snatch up someone the second your friend dumps them, especially if that someone dumped them for you. That's just horribly selfish. Horribly, horribly selfish. You will end up without friends doing that.

Also, you know, that sort of mentality also supports rape, stalking, etc, because that's how those people see "love" and find that an acceptable way to express "love." Do you see my point? Not saying she's not in love; not critiquing the OP, just your statement.

Wow. That whole "If you truly loved them" thing is cliche and it is utter bullshit. It would still hurt knowing that he will never have those feelings for you. You can't just switch off how you feel for someone. Emotions are not something we can control. That being said though, She has to live with it. Move out or something to get him off her mind, but she has no right to ruin someone else's relationship. If they were to break up for unrelated reasons, then he is fair-game. (Assuming she is not or does not want to be friends with her roommate)

It's cliche, but it's true. You love someone, you want them to be happy. Put them above yourself. That's the point of love, yes? But I wasn't saying it's easy as shit, not hurtful, or that she can just turn her emotions off and on. In fact, I even said "It's rough going."

Not my mentality people who cant handle an open mind are the ones who stalk and rape. Its just my way of thinking.

"People who can't handle an open mind stalk and rape" - first, how do you come to this conclusion? Second, your mentality = your way of thinking. Third, you said along the lines of "people have their own definition of love, therefore you can't tell someone they aren't in love" -- this sort of mentality is supporting that: underage sex is okay because the person, in their definition, is "in love," stalking is okay because the person, in their definition, is "in love," rape is okay because the person, in their definition, is "in love," and you are not allowed to tell them otherwise or prosecute them because that is what they think of love.

People who have been in trauma and that eventually go sick in their mind because they cant handle their "mentality" do those things. To those people who think they are in love is okay in their eyes to have underaged sex. Some things work out and some do not. Stalking is going way to far out of love thats doing anything to get that love returned and thats VIOLATING SOMEONE ELSES RIGHTS. like i said before PEOPLE HAVE THE FREEDOM TO DO WHATEVER THEY WANT AS LONG AS THEY DONT VIOLATE SOMEONE ELSES RIGHTS.

And you don't think snatching someone else's partner from under their nose is violating rights? Not only are you treating the former like shit, you're treating the partner like an object or prize, and you are completely disregarding both of their feelings because you are selfishly putting yourself above them. YOUR MENTALITY IS YOUR WAY OF THINKING. Dictionary: men·tal·i·ty (mĕn-tăl'ĭ-tē) 1.Cast or turn of mind: a vindictive mentality. 2.The sum of a person's intellectual capabilities or endowment. Oh, and, okay, so you can go out and fuck five guys in a week because you're totally in love with each of them, eh? It doesn't matter how sick in mind someone is, though, what you SAID was that you CAN NOT tell a person what they feel isn't love just because you don't agree. Since it is their OPINION, regardless of their state of mind, that they are IN LOVE and aren't going too far, it is OKAY for them to rape and stalk. THAT is what your mentality, your WAY OF THINKING, your STATEMENT is supporting.

How is it violating rights and how is it snatching i am saying TALKING. its not doing anything wrong. Its just clearing things up. You are treating the person like a prize because you are not stealing anything from them if its not an object. OMG how the fuck did this turn into my fucking situation i have my boyfriend and and i have my way of thinking and my personality i really do not need anyones approval. And if a person is in love with five guys then go ahead i really do not care what anyone does. No its not okay to rape and stalk because that is violating the persons rights. My way of thinking is do whatever you want as long as you don't violate someone else's rights. now leave me the fuck alone

yeah it sucks and its tough but think of your friend she's happy and if you were a true friend, you'd be happy for her. or try to be.

If he knows your in love with him and he still has not really shown interest in you than move on. If he starts making moves on you dont let him because he will use you. If he doesnt know i would really honestly fight for his love. I know she is your best friend and everything but all is fair in love and war. It is kind of messed up but you havent had your chance and its not fair. That doesnt mean go around behind her back just one day like talk to him and tell him how you feel. If he feels the same way you three work it out in a way that your friend wont be hurt as much and if he doesnt feel the same way move out cause it will be kind of awkward.

You are ridiculous. What kind of person are you to give advice like that? You are the type of girl I hate. You must be that type that flirts with a guy knowing he is already taken. How is the girlfriend suppose to feel about that? You must be an immature high schooler to think that is appropriate behavior. If you've ever had a boyfriend, you're probably the overly dependent type as well, and feel like it's "the end of my world!" if you're ever broken up with.

It is my opinion and open advice if OP takes my advice its because it made sense to her. You don't even know me so i have no idea why off the back you hate me but okay. I am pretty sure the girlfriend would not feel good about that and i am aware that she would not feel okay. I don't necessarily think its appropriate behavior. When i get broken up with it hurts of course but i DO NOT think its the end of the world. I am perfectly fine with guys breaking up with me because obviously they did not have a strong connection and i would rather be broken up with than lied to. Honestly i just move on because i know there are many other guys out there.

Oh and if i know the guy is taken i do not flirt with them! but if i have strong feelings for him and when i met him he was not taken then i have a chance to fight for him. That does not mean i go around following him trying to make out with him or anything knowing he is with another girl i just talk to him find out where he is at with me and if were good i make it clear you have to choose its either me or someone else. I am sorry if i do things wrong in your eyes but to me it does not seem wrong.

.... Choose between you and his girlfriend? Who do you think you are, seriously?

Not me and his girlfriend.. I said Me and Other people who are trying to get with him like in general.. but even if it were between me and his GF what does it matter. Maybe i liked him first did not have the guts to tell him and some girl got with him. Its just an example i don't like to get between people so when there single i make my move like every other person.

If you didn't have the guts, then that's too bad. He obviously is not interested in you, at least for the moment, so leave him alone. You don't think going up to him and saying you like him when he's already taken isn't "getting between people"? What planet are you from? And those TV shows are fiction. Fiction does not tend to do so well in reality. In fiction, the guy secretly had feelings for her all along. In reality, if that were the case, the guy wouldn't be with the other girl, unless he was using her or pathetically staying with her for fear of rejection from her, and that is not a guy you want to hook up with.

Also you do realize you basically just said "I saw him first, SO HE'S MINE!" Incredibly childish, my dear. Oh, and I never doubted OP might actually feel love, or at least the edges of it. Otherwise I would have said something specifically about it.

ilu DameGreyWulf Jeeze, Jenny, I hope any "friend" of yours whose boyfriend you have your eyes set on gets far the fuck away from you ASAP.

DameGreyWolf wins for common sense. Jenny, you gotta learn to move on. You're making your life harder than it needs to be. No means no.

I do not fall for my friends boyfriends because we tell each other who we like. Me and my friends have never had that problem. So if you do not know me i suggest you SHUT THE FUCK UP

So it's okay to fall for someone who is taken because their girlfriend didn't validate their availability to you to make sure their feelings are cleared to act on? What the hell? Don't turn relationships into a bureaucracy.

thank you damngreywolf heres a waffle for a job well done (>'')>#

I think I speak for a lot of people here when I say I'm glad as fuck I don't know you, kiddo.

Okay first you say that your glad that your not my friend. So to me i am replying on the whole friends thing. My friends know who i like and to be honest i am a very calm person i am not the type of girl that sees a guy and my hormones start raging i am saying just in general. Other people like the ones that have their boyfriends and their girlfriends well i really don't care how they feel because i do not know them so why should i feel bad when i go up to a guy thats taken and tell him i think your cute and leave it at that. All i am saying is TALK TO HIM i am NOT SAYING MESS AROUND WITH HIM. How is that even bad. At least i wont go and support cheating i just support clarifying the situation. A person has a right to know who is interested in them.

It's one thing to not know they are taken and flirt, but it's an entirely different thing to flirt while you do know. And she's not just flirting, she's going to go say "hey I love you." That is also an entirely different thing. There's such thing as "boundaries," you know. And "why should I care about them" haha, you're a horrible human being, you know that? Sick, selfish, arrogant little whore. But, okay, I am going to go and hang all over any boyfriend you get, because it's totally okay since we're not friends and stuff.

Hey, OP, your story sounds alot like a movie called Single White Female. I suggest you rent it.....wait, on second thought that might give you tips on how to get him. SEEK HELP!!

ROFL! SarcasticAvenger, you rock!!!

LOL, it's funny that you said "there are plenty of fish in the sea". There is an online dating site called that.

Okay, you need to simma down now. Clearly, you are neither a trustworthy friend, nor a nice person. What kind of woman would do that to another woman? You are "in love" with her boyfriend. That's fucking horrible. I'm sure you would not be too happy if she was the one in love with YOUR boyfriend. The dude is HER boyfriend. Back the f off. There is a reason he is with her and not you.

Oh yeah, and stop being jealous. It's unattractive and probably why he doesn't like you.

Yeah, but if the boy "settled" with her best friend to "be close to her," then that says much about his character. It also makes him a creep. And who would want to be with someone anyway who just "settles" and then secretly wants someone else? Listen to yourself! Also, I do disagree because I believe that I do have the freedom to judge whoever the fuck I want. I calls them as I sees them, and this girl is JEALOUS!

Thats what i am saying people do different things for love of course you would not know because you are not in the position that they are. Yes you do have the freedom to do whatever you want as long as you do not violate someone else's rights. Im not saying you are violating her rights but your judgements may offend her and its not fair to judge a person because you are no one to judge and you are not in her shoes. Of course this girls is jealous because she has to see the person she loves with another woman. Im sure you would be too if you were in love with a man and you saw him with another person.

And the op is not "offending" her roommate by trying to steal her man? Or even for believing that the bf is really "just settling" for the roommate? I'd hate to be your friend. While J1zzInMyPants didn't need to be obnoxious, he has a point.

Basically what i am trying to get across is that they might be in a situation in where the best friend might have been a bad friend and made a move on him knowing OP was in love with him. There are so many possibilities. I am not saying that is the case i am saying it may be a possibility that he is settling. I just said that because everyone is making her out to be a home wrecker and no one has a right to do that without knowing what the situation is. OP has a right to talk to him i mean she is not violating anyones rights by talking. Cheating is wrong and if you could see i was not supporting cheating but OP has a right to be happy as well. If i were OP i would talk to him and tell him how i feel because it does not matter who met who first what matters is who is right for who.

"The situation" is irrelivent if the OP has a shred of decency in her. The phrase "bros before hos" applies to women, too. She has no right to disrupt her roommate's relationship. It will end itself eventually if he's "settling" or if the roommate is a bad person. If it doesn't end itself even if one of those things is true, the guy can't really be worth having. OP can make a move if the "happy couple" breaks up, but a decent person would either say nothing at all until then, or ONLY tell the roommate about it (NOT the boyfriend).

I disagree with the situation is important and its not about decency its about her emotions. and i tough the phrase was "sis before dicks". She has a right to clarify her feelings with the guy. What i see here is settling to having the guy you love with your best friend and watching them have a nice life or clarifying things with both of them and possibly keep the friend because you at least showed that you cared enough to tell her and not go behind her back like ALOT of other people do. If your friend throws a bitch fit i understand but then again she has to also realize that you are in LOVE with him. What i don't get is why is everyone making a big deal. She is going to talk to the guy she loves i mean many of people do it. She is going to tell him how she feels and hopefully things work out for her. I know that best friends are important and they do give you happiness but its a person you LOVE that completes you. Thats the way i see it. If he says lets fool around and stuff then forget about him he is no good. If he has feelings for you too than he needs to be a man and accept the fact that he has to go up to his GF and tell her and you also need to do that as well. It may be a win and lose situation but if your best friend cares about you as much as you do then she will understand. Its not easy seeing the person you love living with a person your close to.

The situation you are describing comes from an overindulgence of chick flicks. Girl: "I love you!" Boy: "OMG ME TOO! I have just been with this other person for so long because I didn't think we had a chance." *Ride off into the sunset* I would bet a significant amount of money on the fact that the guy does not have feelings for the OP. The OP going to talk to the boy is just going to lead to drama that does not need to happen. It sucks liking your friend's b/f, but if you are a friend you respect those boundaries. I would hate to be your friend Jennie! The idea that you would really step over a well-known line of ethics and be willing to go and tell your friend's b/f that you are "in love" with him pisses me the fuck off. I really would like to know how old you are because I feel like the things you spout comes from a lack of experience in real life. I will agree that the OP can believe that she is "in love," but again I would bet a significant amount of money that it is not real love. I don't think you can be truly in love with someone until you know every facet of them and still love them because people can suck (even the people you love). That is why you love them because you are willing to accept the bad parts of them too and it doesn't matter to you. I bet the OP only knows this boy to the extent that she has been around him (most likely in a highly social situation where the boy is putting his best foot forward). The OP needs to move the fuck out if she can't handle this situation (which is what I would do frankly). She has no right to create drama in that house even though she is in an unfortunate situation with her feelings. Chicks before Dicks.

How can you even allow yourself to "love" your room mate's boyfriend? If I see a guy I might like and then find out he's taken, he might as well be gay because I won't see him in that light ever again. I just hope you don't try to tell him and get him to fall in love with you.

I agree, assuming you met him after they started dating and weren't in love beforehand. I'm not saying it's something easy to control, but just don't be a homewrecker. Also, you don't have to take that crap from them and let him move in. It's your room too. YDI if you do.

What if she was in love with him before her best friend even knew him and she never had the courage to go up to him.

What if her best friend was in love with him before they even knew each other? Your points are all invalid. She needs to not ruin a relationship because she can't control herself. Everything happens for a reason. If her roommate and bf break up then sure go for him. Otherwise she needs to keep her feelings to herself because she could lose out on more than a new bf. He could find her creepy if she told him thus never wanting anyhing to do with her. Then he tells his gf and she gets pissed and then they want her to move out because of awkwardness. So before you open your mouth again about what the OP should do think about ALL the people in the situation and not just the OP. Girls like you need to go far away from society.

#60 Ya snooze ya lose

In the end. They are HER emotions and unfortunately she CAN NOT control them. I really don't care who saw him first or anything its just like it depends on the personality of the person and the way they think. I honestly don't think it matters who saw them first its just maybe she knew him for a while but did not have the courage to go up to him because she is either shy, self conscious, or insecure. You don't fucking know me so i do not understand why the fuck you are telling me that i need to stay away from society who the fuck do you think you are. Obviously thats the way i think. She could tell him and talk to him and just because he is taken does not mean she cant talk to him. People in this world do a lot worse than what i am advising so i do not understand why everyone is all going crazy. I would go talk to him and let him know, and if he is not interested then move on for sure but i think its fair for her to know if she has a chance for love.

jenny, ur wrong. she doesnt have a right to try and win him back. if those two are together, she shudnt even try to seperate them for her own gain. its not love, you dont love someone you cant share ur feelings with. he obviously doesnt have the feelings she has for him, so why would she ruin it for the couple? it wud be really bitchy of her. just because she isnt happy, doesnt mean that she has to make them unhappy too. they are in a reltionship OP. LET THEM BE

It's pretty easy to tell what kind of person you are. From reading all the posts, you're someone that would get in the way of another couples happiness, just to try to make yourself happy. It's OP's fault that she didn't take her chance. Once it's gone, it's gone until the opportunity presents itself again. NOW IS NOT THE FUCKING TIME TO DO IT BECAUSE SHE LIVES WITH HER FRIEND, AND HER FRIENDS BOYFRIEND. Are you too fucking naive to see that if she does that she'll ruin a lot more, and hurt herself even more. It's better to not know, than to find out he has never liked her, and never will. I hope she does talk to him, and his response is to propose to his gf, so she can be the maid of honor because she took your advice. Your logic makes you look retarded, and you contradict everything you say.

Okay like i have said before OP's definition of LOVE could be DIFFERENT. To me love is not a emotion to me love is something you show through act and many might disagree but thats what love is to me because thats my way of thinking or my "Mentality". She is not ruining it for the couple if she just talks to him. Bitchy would be her making moves on him while OPs bestfriend is not their. Maybe OP is very happy by now. Hopefully things worked out for all of them and she, her bestfriend and the guy are okay.

You do not know me AT ALL. To be honest i am getting tired of everyone saying i am a bad person, selfish, stupid, and what not. I would not call it getting in the way because i am saying TALK not kiss him, make a move on him, date him behind her back, fuck or anything else just to tell him what she feels. I think a person has a right to know who is interested in them because maybe they want to know, or their not happy in their relationship and what not. Im not saying its the time to do that. Im saying its better now than never. Im sure her friend would tolerate talking and she could hurt herself more in the way of her pride or even her emotions. I think its better to know because if she knows he does not see her in that way or that he just is not interested she could think to herself that she really needs to get over him because their will not be anything there. Maybe its even better for her to say something because it could help the bf realize how much he loves this person. OP can move on and Couple are better than ever. People are contradicting everything i say and taking what i say completely different respond something along the lines and make me disagree with them. And if my logic is so retarded than why would you even bother to respond.

Because you speak out of your ass. NO ONE IN HERE AGREES WITH YOU. Do you not fucking see that?

Not only that, but listening to what you have to say about love/relationships is like listening to what a brick wall has to say about moving.

How does that even make sense. A wall has no experience moving. So you are saying that i do not have experience with relationships. You are just dumb for saying that. What i am saying is MY OPINION i really do not give a fuck if you agree. so whatever.

If you don't give a shit, then why keep responding, eh? Also, I laugh at your ALLCAPS. And the point was, child, that a wall knows nothing about moving, just like you know nothing about relationships/love.

fuck your life? really? it's the perfect time to make your move! you should "accidentally" walk in on him when he's in the shower.

um, time 4 a new guy to fall in love with. going for some1 elses dude's just gonna cause more drama. unless thats wat u want

dang, thats a gucher.

you should just walk in on him when he gets out the shower just for a peek lol.. hey no you can look all you want but no touchy lol

"Hi, my name is Anonymous, and I'm a human doormat!"

YDI don't be a home wrecker. Get your own man.

YDI for letting it get to this stage instead of doing the sensible thing and talking to your roommate about the problem and taking the time to get over him. Because seriously, this will only end badly.

get over it he wasn't ur boyfriend to begin with!

Not to be trite, but get the fuck over it.

All you girls just think you're in love with these guys because you can't have them. Maybe if you put yourself out there you would meet someone and fall in love with someone else.

Wow... totally have been there before. It is super hard.... I no longer live with them and unfortunately we never speak either, all due to his gf's insecurities. :(

YDI for not respecting your roomate and their partner.

You better not cheat. Don't be a sick fuck!

Move out.

Why is it that so many people can't seem to grasp the difference between "in love with" and "infatuated with"? I'm irritated by anyone who expects sympathy based on their own failure to be self aware.

Don't you dare be a bitch and make a move on this guy you're "in love" with

That sucks! If i were you i would see if they were in love and then if they werent make your move!!!!

Woiw this is horrible. Sonme of the cooments people have been putting here, such as "he berlongs to someone else" and "don't you dare make a move"- fuck off! Boyfriends and girlfrfiends don't "belong"to anyone. If she wants to make a move on him, she can! Just because a guy is taken it doesn't mean you can't make a move- realtionships aren't all rock solid amd most guys will leave as soon as they find a better deal. And as for hose who are saying "think how the gf would feel"- the fact is, we don't care how the gf feels. To someone who likes a taken guy, the gf is just an obsticle who needs to be removed. They don't care about her, and why should OP? All that matters is getting the guy in the end. OP, what I'd do is ignore the idiot do- gooders on here and try to break then up (hopefully in due course it'll happne itself- couples never last). If you want to make a move, do it. If he rejects you then move away. Your friend is the bitch for having the guy you love, not you. If it were me I'd try to do something. Wait unti you're both alone int he house one night. Guys don't really fall in love to be honest- they take whatever offers they get, and usually choose the best one. I mean, if I was a guy, and I had a gf, but another, hotter girl came along, I'd be off with her before you could say "you're dumped". Overall it should be you who has him, not her, so go for it!

Classy.

You're a whore and the reason I hate girls and hang out with boys.

You piss a lot of people off that way. I'm sure you wouldn't be singing the same song of "taken guys are fair game" when someone pulls the same shit on you. Seriously, you sound like a self-centered bitch who lacks the concept of boundaries and common decency. I honestly hope that you have no friends at all, because you only seem to think about yourself and would gladly betray a friendship for a guy that would probably only stay with you for a few months anyway, if at all. Not to mention, from my experience with talking to my guy friends, girls like you just make them laugh/annoyed because you're so desperate and pathetic for attention. Either that, or they just think you're easy. Bottom line: grow the fuck up. The world does not revolve around you.

That is exactly what i mean. Boyfriends and Girlfriends does not mean permanent relationship. Even in marriage there is divorce. The whole making a move is bad because she does have to think about her best friend in a way. If it was just a girl then i would say yeah your right but they are bestfriends that complicates everything.

Ah yes jemmalu. but u failed to realize that the reason the bf moved in with the gf, is to have raging wall sex, and that is indeed, rock solid. (>'')>#

Okay, sooo... you want to hook up with guys who'll dump you the second they see tail they deem to be "better"? Honey, you're in for a lot of illegitimate children.

You're not even worth commenting on because of how fucking stupid you sound. I hope your ass gets dumped like this a thousand times and you still don't learn your lesson. If a bitch that acted like you ever tried to pull a fucking move on me when I was in a relationship, I'd laugh in her fucking face even if she was "hotter" than my girlfriend and tell her to back the fuck off. Its funny how your advise, and even your name is just like Jenna from earlier in FML. Seems like someone might have two accounts.

jenny*

Really?? Are you fucking kidding me. Why the fuck would i have two accounts that is so LAME. and its not Jenna its Jenny. Jemmalou86 is nothing like JEnny maybe the first two letters. Your really dumb if you think i would be that low to make another account to make me sound good thats completely ridiculous. I admire how much respect and love you have for your girlfriend that shows that your a good guy. Thats rare these days.

Not really, but you're a bad person to begin with so I guess you attract bad guys. And y'know, if you'd stop stealing boyfriends from under other girls' noses, maybe you wouldn't get all the assholes, eh? I mean, what makes you think, if it was so easy for you to seduce him, that he isn't going to hop off the train at any moment? Secure relationships, you will never have. Of course that's fine and all with you, isn't it? Since, ya know, it's okay to steal others' partners. So it doesn't really matter if some other chick nabs yours, eh?

What the hell is your problem??? I AM NOT EVEN FUCKING TALKING TO YOU (DAMEWHATEVER). I JUST SAID ITS GREAT THAT HES A GREAT GUY AND HERE YOU COME ATTACKING ME ONCE AGAIN AND I DIDNT SAY SHIT TO YOU. I NEVER SAID MY BF IS AN ASSHOLE. JUST LEAVE ME THE FUCK ALONE YOU WEIRDO. IM TRYING TO KEEP MY COOL BUT WHEN YOU KEEP COMING AND TELLING ME THINGS IM GOING TO TELL YOU OFF NOW LEAVE ME ALONE

You are posting on a public site, with a public commenting system for its users, leaving yourself open to the comments of anyone who wishes to. "your a good guy. Thats rare these days." quite implies you think the majority of men suck, but darlin', only the sad saps you've saddled with suck, because you are essentially a magnet for suck, because you suck. Saying such a sexist little ignorant comment is bound to get a reply, initially.

You know what. Obviously you have a lot of time on your hands so to everyone else who has been attacking me and telling me things as well. You can all go FUCK YOUR SELF'S. I have better things to do so whatever.

I hope one of those things is going to school and larnin bettar grammar's.

I'm just going to reply here, since the post got deleted. First I sent the private message AFTER I wrote back to you. Secondly, analyzing a sentence....hmmmm. I don't see the word best friend in there. Therefore you added words, thus analyzing too far into something? Don't criticize me for coming up with bogus statements if you're going to add detail that makes you think they are best friends. Oh and read your inbox again. I sent you a message clarifying that I wrote those beforehand.

Oh man. Get out as soon as you can. Things can happen even if you don't mean them to and then your life is worse!!!

Hey OP, I think I can kind of understand how you feel. In my junior and senior years in high school there was a guy who was in every single one of my classes, we weren't particularly close, but we shared a lot of quirky interests. Halfway through my Junior year I began to developed a crush on him, and it got a lot bigger as time went on, until he was the only thing I thought about. and I'm an extreamly shy person, so unfortunately I didn't have the guts to tell him how I felt before we graduated. I found him on facebook a couple months after graduation, and noticed that he now had a girlfriend. It was pretty devastating. I still talked to him some, because he was able to make me smile like nobody else, but I forced myself to realize that my chance was over. I had my opportunity and lost it. No matter how compatible we would have been, it doesn't matter because he's taken now. It hurts like hell. 2 years later, I still talk to him, and I still think about what could have been, but I know it never will be. I would never dream of hurting their relationship, and I've given up on ever having a chance with him, but it just makes me feel better to know that I haven't lost contact completely. Anyway, moral of my story: do what you need to in order to feel better, without hurting anyone. If you need to tell them how you feel and then move out, do it. If you need to find another guy, do it. If you need to sit alone and cry and eat ice cream, just do it. Don't let some of the angrier posts on here upset you, just do what you feel is right. c:

talk the possibility of a threesome up!

If he is dating your roommate, then why did you agree to him moving in if you knew it would be a problem?

It could be a situation similar to a chick flick i guess, but i have seen it happen a lot. Fine if the guy does not have feelings for her she has a right to know. If she talks to him she can clarify her feelings and move on basically put a end to it because she knows it would not happen, and i am so glad we are not friends because i have open minded friends who share the same opinions as me and we all get along. I would not fool around with him i would simply say i have feelings for you and thats it. I am just informing him and my friend would know how i feel because i tell them everything, and to be honest i don't give a fuck what pisses you the fuck off. It may not be real love between the both but to her it is real love because she has a different view of love than you. She does have a right to have a say because she IS LIVING THERE TOO! it is up to her if she wants to move out or not.

"i have open minded friends who share the same opinions as me"...the irony of that statement aside, you must really be living in a bloodbath, what with everyone hitting on everyone else's BFs/GFs. The thing is, not everyone thrives on drama. It is "going behind her back" in every sense of the phrase for the OP to tell her roommate's BF about her feelings, even if he doesn't feel the same way. The guy will inevitably tell OP's roommate, the roommate will get pissed and insecure, and the OP will be even more miserable than before. What woman would be OK with other women walking up to their BF and telling him how they love him? You seem to be working under the unfair assumption that OP's roommate is a bitch and deserves it. You lost all credibility when you agreed with jemmalou86.

I do not live in a bloodbath. WTF you do not know where i live. YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT ME. I still have no idea why the fuck you keep responding to me. Seriously no one is hitting on anyones BF/GF. Me and my friends are clear on who we like. Even with people in general i really do not care if i do not know them. I look at a guy and i think he is cute. I do not go chase him down and get to know him. Usually guys come up to me and if there taken i do not mess with them because that just shows what type of guy he is. I go for the good guys. OP knows what type of guy he is OP knows the situation OP knows her bestfriend and OP should make her OWN DECISIONS and NOT BE CRITICIZED by assholes that think its wrong maybe she does not think its wrong. I would be okay with a woman coming up to my bf and telling him that they like or love him. Its happened before and i have never over reacted. I simply sat down with the girl and my BF talked things out and we were all okay at the end. What credibility did i fucking have everyone is attacking me saying i am a bad person.

Who the fuck even says the OP knows him? You don't fucking know her. What if she is a fucking stalker, and knows everything about her, and just so happens to have become best friends with his GF to try and get closer to him because she's a fucking stalker. Don't just fucking think that because she loves him, she fucking knows him. You just assume every-fucking-thing and thats why people are getting on your ass about the fucking bullshit you say.

Its her best friends boyfriend! LIVING IN THE SAME APARTMENT SHE IS! are you stupid or what??? i am sorry for analyzing a sentence which they taught you how to do in high school. Maybe she is a psycho but your just assuming this whole terrible scenario and i really do not think thats the situation she is in because she would have never put Best friend on there she would have put a girl because she would not care. ITS MY FUCKING OPINION AND I HAVE THE RIGHT TO EXPRESS IT AND IM SORRY YOU DONT AGREE. AND IF YOUR GOING TO BE AN ASSHOLE AND SEND ME A MESSAGE APOLOGIZING AND THEN COME RIGHT BACK AND INSULT ME THAT JUST SHOWS THE TYPE OF PERSON YOU ARE.

as i say to all FML's, everything is better when kirby gives u a waffle. (>'')># here you go! SPREAD THE WORD! KIRBY TAKING OVER FML!

You, sir, are now my hero.

one how can you be in love with a guy that you're not going out with and two how come he just happens to be your roomates boyfriend, why not your "best friend" like they always say. you cant exactly be in love with him unless you're going out with him...

i mean hey, my friend's going out with a girl i have a mad crush on but i agree with the person who said it's just a crush, i mean granted a big one but just a crush, but a crush in of itself is a form of love, it only goes one way though, its not "in love" its what they call unrequited love. i believe thats how you spell it

wow . you all have no lives . especially jenny . do you all come home everyday and run to the computer to comment back to the latest insult . and people are gonna say to me ''well what are you doing then commenting you fuckwit'' or whatever . different situation cuz i'm not having a huge , stupid fight with strangers . none of you have even met before & you're arguing . some people have been saying 'you dont know the guy, get over it ''. how do you know she doesn't know him ? they may be really close friends and she's developed deeper feelings for him or whatever . the situation would absolutely suck . you'd see them all over each other and being lovey dovey like everyday . it would make OP's life suck shit !

WTF IS YOUR PROBLEM YOUR NOT EVEN IN THIS FUCKING ARGUMENT SO I HAVE NO IDEA WHY YOUR RUNNING YOUR MOUTH DUMB ASS. I KEEP COMING BACK BECAUSE I GET THE COMMENTS THINGS ON MY PROFILE SO STFU

yooo jenny. take a chill pill. just computer people here. doing our computer people thing. no need to blow a shitstorm. (>")>#

you can so be in love with him if you dont go out with him .. dumb ass

OP I feel bad for the situation your in

happened to me too more than once

That sucks...a lot. I have a rough idea what that's like, the girl I've liked for months and one of my roommates kinda have something going on. It's not as bad as what you've said, but it's a bitch.

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